Nothing was working.
Their relationship had become a place of pain, silence, and repeat conflict. The old tools were not enough.
About Connection Codes
We almost gave up on connection.
Connection Codes began inside a marriage that had run out of tricks. What came out of that pain is now a shared language for couples, families, coaches, churches, and teams who want to understand what is happening underneath the fight.
FoundersDr Glenn and Phyllis Hill
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The origin story
The framework was born where most people need it: in the middle of real pain.
Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill were not trying to build a brand. They were trying to survive their own disconnection. Glenn went looking for the missing key through clinical training, but Phyllis made sure the answer stayed simple enough to use in a kitchen, a car, a bedroom, a boardroom, or any moment where two people are trying not to lose each other.
Glenn went looking under the fight.
Clinical training gave language to what had been happening in the room all along: emotion was driving the disconnection.
Phyllis made it usable.
If the framework could not help in the middle of dinner, tears, tone, and the everyday mess, it was not finished yet.
What changedThe fight is rarely the whole story. The emotion underneath it is usually asking for care.
The Core Emotion Wheel names eight emotions that show up in every human body: Joy, Anger, Shame, Guilt, Fear, Lonely, Sad, and Hurt. Each one carries a message and a need. When people can name that, the conversation stops being a courtroom and starts becoming a place where repair can happen.
Explore the protocolsWhere to begin
Choose the door closest to your real life.
Meet the team
The people behind the practice.
Connection Codes is not only a framework. It is a small group of people carrying language, logistics, care, coaching, and creativity into places where people are trying to come back to each other.
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COO
Elijah Runyan
Keeps the tools moving from idea to lived practice.Elijah brings operational steadiness, coach development, and a trainer's eye for practical transformation. He helps the work become something people can actually repeat in families, teams, and communities.
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Support Hero
Laurel Simpson
Brings calm to the overwhelm people arrive with.Laurel helps individuals and couples move from overwhelm and conflict toward clarity, safety, and connection. She carries the nervous-system tenderness that makes the framework feel human, not mechanical.
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Executive Assistant
Montse Nunez
Turns tiny details into felt care.Montse brings warmth, order, and emotional intelligence to the small moments that make the whole system feel held. She is often the difference between a good idea and an experience people can trust.
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Creative Assistant
Jonathan Hernandez
Translates the work into stories, systems, and tools.Jonathan helps turn the language of Connection Codes into creative systems people can use: essays, pages, workflows, and resources that make emotional connection feel closer to real life.
We felt hopeless and lonely until Connection Codes.
Janet RoseThe Connection Codes gave me language to identify what is happening for me and communicate that.
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